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Confession #2511

OK, let me get this right..you did the crime... I bailed you out... You had to stand before the court...I could hear everything... You have to go to court appointed therapy... I have to talk to her, too... I didn't do anything... why me??? This is maddening to me.. When does this stop? I didn't do anything. Oh Yeah, I had to sit through dinner with your family and pretend to make nice while they plowed the kids with sugar and then tell me to control them... Is this what it means when they say for better or worse??
Love??? Me

Confession #2512

To my new husband:

You're wonderful. You've changed my life. Want to know how I knew you were the one? Because I've never once had the thought, "I'm missing out on something." Nor have I thought about anyone I've dated in my past and wanted them back in my life. With you I look forward to the future. We both look forward to being two old farts on our front porch with tons of wrinkles rocking in our rocking chairs and being happy with life. We both know there will be hard times and times when we'll want to kill or divorce the other one, but we've made a promise to stay together and work out the issues. We talk, listen, compromise, support, and love the other. Thank you for being you and loving me.

I love you with all my heart,

Your Wife

Confession #2513

I want a divorce, you always tell me I couldn't do it on my own, well, I have news for you, I KNOW I can!!! I hate coming home and all I see is your lazy ass laying on the couch, laughing at Everybody loves Raymond. We haven't even slept in the same bed for years!!! Hello, women need affection!! That's why I like him so much, actually, I love him and you have to know I do. He is all I think about 24/7, so why not just leave and let me be happy. You would be happier to and you know that. It is time to file some paperwork!!!!!

Confession #2514

Sometimes when you fall asleep in the living room I don't wake you to move to the bedroom because once in a while I enjoy having the bed all to myself and not having lull myself to sleep to the sound of your snoring. I feel a little guilty, but think that the couch and floor must be pretty comfortable if you fell asleep there in the first place... Sorry

Confession #2515

I love you, but I'm not sure how much longer I can go on living like this. It seems we fight all the time anymore. I know your stress level is through the roof, I realize your grad school program is outrageously difficult, but you knew that going into it. You used to be better than the best, you'd ask me for a list for my birthday or Christmas but you'd never use it bc you had better ideas. You bought me
things I didn't even know I wanted. Now you get the list and don't even read it, the things you buy now seem almost to be a matter of "well I have to get something today and she'll like this right?" yeah put some effort into it. Mother's Day is Sunday, I said something last night about sitting around doing nothing all day on Sunday and you asked why. That pretty much guarantees that I'm not getting anything as I haven't the past two years. Your crappy excuse about having no time is just that crappy. You had finals last year at this time yes, but you were done as of noon on Friday and I was still at work, hmmmm methinks you could have stopped on the way home from school to buy something. Right now you're off at a party to celebrate the end of your first year and you have the unmitigated gall to call and say you want to talk to me one more time because you probably won't be home before I go to bed. This from the same man who called me in a snit on Sunday because I took our son and went out with my parents so you could study for finals. You wanted me to come home so you could see me for a while. HMMM let's see you think maybe since you've been holed up studying for a week that I might want to see you tonight, especially since I have class tomorrow night and won't be home??? DUMB@$$ I work my butt off going to school so I can make more money tosupport you while you go to school and what thanks do
I get? NONE, you say you'll help around the house, routinely I hear that you got home first and I worked all day so you'll make dinner and do you, hell no. I
want to be supportive of you. You've been to other parties with your classmates, you always say that it's just for students yet every damn time you come home you have stories about how someone else's spouse, girlfriend or boyfriend was there. You say you want friends of you own like I have friends of my own. Okay I get that, I truly do, but when I plan things with my friends I always invite you. You are my best
friend, and you claim I'm yours but you don't want me involved in anything to do with your school, never mind the fact that I agreed to move away from my friends and family to a new town so you could go to school and that I'm the one working and not saying a word when you choose not to pick up hours at your old job to help pay bills. At the rate we're going don't be surprised if after you graduate and get a nice
cushy job that I take you to the proverbial cleaners after I pack up our son and move out. I can't even talk about how stressed I am about work and wanting the school year to be over without you making it all about you again. If I'm upset over something and you pressure me into talking to you about it, it always
becomes a matter of how much more stressed I'm making your life. I'm sitting here praying that it pours like mad on that stupid party so you'll have to come
home. You're over 30 yrs old, you're classmates are 21 and 22, GROW THE F UP!!! You chose to get married, you chose to have children, act like the adult you're supposed to be, instead of the child you know you're not. You choose not to come home til after I go to bed tonight, I'll stay out the entire time my class is supposed to meet whether it lasts that long or not! and if you saw one word about not being able to see me or spend time with me I might just hit you.

Confession #2516

You put your pot stash in our 4 year old daughter's back pack. You dropped her off to me and I was cleaning out her back pack and it positively reeked of pot. And you wonder why I don't want to have her for 50% of the time? You drive high for fricks sake!

Confession #2517

We're happy after a lot of bad years I'm content and glad we made it through. All we ever needed to be happy was for me to stop wanting to have sex. Menopause is your best friend

Confession #2518

I kissed my coworker thursday and friday.

Confession #2519

After our get-a-way several weeks ago - when we got home after a lovely weekend together - ravishing each other like 18 year olds....and we had to look at each other and admit that we were both so sore that we couldn't bear to have sex again for a couple of days? That was awesome. Who says that we can't have great sex in our 40's...

Confession #2520

You helped make mother's day truly special - and I thank you.

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Confession #2501

I'm confession #2467......i'm fairly new to this, but its become a place where i can vent when i feel i have no where to turn.

Your comments were all greatly appreciated, but i wanted to clear up a few things. As we all know, there are ALWAYS two sides to every story. I was angry at him that day and ommited a few things that I really should have mentioned.



I have cheated on him. With two ex boyfriends. Nothing big. Just kissed them both. I know that no matter how small, all cheating is wrong. And I know that this is why his jealousy has taken over. He's really a great person that didn't deserve that. I know i messed up but i've been trying hard to show him that it wont happen again. It happened so long ago that i feel he should see all the things i do for him now and forgive me. I know its not fair on my part to expect him to forgive me but im trying so hard.



Our only problem is his jealousy issues. He doesnt cheat. He doesnt like porn. He cooks. He cleans. He gives me back massages when i've had a long day at work. He pleases me before himself. He's pretty perfect in every other way.....if i could just get him to trust me. I know its my fault. I KNOW.....

I just really love him and I will spend the rest of my life showing him how much i really do care.

No i will not "run away" and no i will not "let him go"

I know some of the things he's done aren't right. But i know i haven't been perfect either.

We have an incredible love between us....and i will not let that go


Confession #2502

Dear lover,

I am embarrassed that I am jealous of your wife. And that is just stupid because what did I expect. I have sex with my husband, too, so all is fair in this little game we’ve got going on. Still, I wish you could hide it better. Probably that is something you need to get better at. And I need to get better at not obsessing over the whole damn thing. Infidelity is tough. Sometimes I wonder what the hell I was thinking… I am not sure I am made for this. I am committed to my life at home but I am also committed to you. Selfish little bastards, aren’t’ we? We both want our cake AND eat it too. Sigh. If I want this all like I say I do, I gotta be lighter hearted when it comes to her. I’m not sure I can. I guess we’ll wait and see… but it would be nice to know you have these feelings about him. Somehow, I don’t think that’s the case, cause you’re a man. I knew what I was getting into but I still don’t know if I am cut out for this. And no one to talk to.

- the other woman

Confession #2503

You have made me so happy in the past. I love how your face lights up when we see each other, even now. I love your smile, your not-so-funny jokes that no one else gets, the way your eyes twinkle when you are thinking something silly. I love the fact that you collect toys and actually let my kids play with them instead of freaking out and telling them they can't. I love your hand in mine, the hugs, you calling me kiddo.

I haven't seen you since January and I know that it is because of her. I hope you open your eyes soon because I have a feeling in the pit of my stomach that she is up to her old tricks and is trying to accuse you of it just so you don't see right through her. You have put on quite a bit of weight, smoking a lot again, and I wish there was something I could do to help you..make you realize that you are a wonderful, special man who deserves love like we have for each other. You let her put you down, ruin your self-esteem, treat you like trash. You are better than that! You keep telling me that I deserve someone who can love me like I should be, well so do you.

I still love you even though we haven't been a couple in 9 months..and I always will.

Confession #2504

some people regret pieces of their life.. i regret the whole thing. i hate that i always see women that i know, or even that i don't know, that have what i feel you should have given me. i know that alot of what i am missing is a result of the stupid decisions that i made, but you could have done more for me a long time ago. and now, here i am 27 with 4 kids and the most fun i have is when i am by myself fantasizing of going back in time to fix my life. i hate you with a passion, you make me sick to my stomach. if i wasn't so strong i swear i would become an alcoholic like you. i resent you, but the saddest of all is that i resent my kids, i feel they hold me back. I've even fantasized about what i would do if they weren't here. not that i would ever hurt them or leave them, I'm too good of a mother and love them to much for that. but sometimes, i wish that i had had that abortion the first time around like my mother begged me to. i don't feel like i have had any fun in my life. i feel trapped in a bubble. and trapped by you. you are such a selfish ignorant person that i have carried on my back for years. and i wish that i could go back and erase you and 99 percent of my life, and just be me again. not just your wife or your kids mother. but just me

Confession #2505

This is how I feel. I am angry at you and so after putting up with your verbal abuse and sometimes cheating on me, on at least 8 occassions, I did the same. You called me names, told me that I was a pearshaped cow and even left my underwear size posted on my computer to humiliate me. So I met this guy who is only 29, and we have been having sex on a regular basis. He loves my fat bottom and flat chest and you don't. I have been very disgusted and angry with you for years and bored so bad in bed, that I actually started counting how many times that I have faked my orgasms with you. I say that in 8 years, I faked at least 500 times. But the strange thing is that now, I cum with you, and only because you are so stupid and clueless. Your ignorance turns me on. You think that I am so excited and wet for you, but I am full of my man's cum. You complained once that I seemed too loose and he is the reason. And the time you found my panties and asked why there was so many curly, kinky black hairs in the crotch, again, it was him.

So listen up you fool. When you think we are having the greatest sex the last 18 months and that I am literally dripping for you, well chump, it's the mess my boyfriend made with his twelve inch penis, and your five inches are just swimming in his cum every time, actually 85 times. How does it feel to know that you are about 7 inches from the end and that my boyfriend is black? Insane I hope.

Confession #2506

Husband,
Sometimes I dream about you dying, because it would be so much easier than divorce.

Confession #2507

I know every single one of your passwords. Email, Myspace, Facebook, I know them all. I have known them for years. I read your email every single day. I have done so for years. If you did that to me, I would freak. But you are really so innocent...anything I've uncovered you've always told me about, unprompted. Whether it be conversations with exes, interesting messages, whatever...you've always been so open and trusting. I used to see lots of purchases for porn subscriptions...but not so much anymore. I'm over that anyways.

Thanks, and I'm really sorry, but I can't help it!

Confession #2508

Dear husband,

You have all this faith and me and I am not living up to it. but I am not leaving you and I haven’t stopped loving you. I just want it all. I know this is not like me and probably you would be in shock to know of the goings on in my heart… and his bed. Ah but I want to be sweet to you and the children and I don’t want you to go. I am acting like a man who can compartmentalize all the feelings and that is scaring me a little bit. The whole affair is so good, and you and me are so good. I am not sure I am cut out for this. How have I justified this? I don’t feel guilty. but I have feelings of jealousy that I should not be having, because all of it is never going beyond a bedroom. There are so many things on my mind, and no one to talk to.

- your wife

Confession #2509

I hate your kids!!!!!!!!!!!! Your selfish , rude, over sensitive kids. I hate that I am a Stepmom what a thing to be. I do all I can for you and your kids. You point out to me constantly how they are your kids so you take care of them. I don't want to have anything to do with them. You make me sick sometimes pretending to be this great dad huh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You never think about them you joined the military and choose post after post farther and farther away from them. When we do get to see those little brats you give them whatever they want and they could never do anything wrong your eyes. I wish I would have married a man who didn't have kids or an ex wife. IF I ONLY WOULD HAVE KNOWN HOW MUCH I HATE THIS I WOULD HAVE TURN AROUND AND RAN AS FAST AS I POSSIBLY COULD!!!!!! I honestly want to disappear and never come back. I don't feel loved or appreciated and I want out.

Confession #2510

You were one of two guys who asked me out on the same night. I thought you were both geeky and maybe a bit weird. I liked the other guy better. I honestly don’t remember why I even said yes to you. Probably just because you were so damn persistent.

My mom swears to this day that she knew right off the bat that I’d found someone special. I can’t imagine how she picked it up, though, because myself, I had no idea. You had a horrible job—it stressed you out so much that you used to talk in your sleep about it. You wore a strangely awful winter coat. Your room was a crapfest and your roommate was overbearing. Your skin wasn’t great and your haircut wasn’t either. You were cheap. And you couldn’t get it up more than half the times we had sex in our first few months.

Looking at it from the other side, I have no idea why you picked me, either. I was dirt poor, making minimum wage; I was growing out a bad dye job; I kept talking politics with your roommate just to press buttons. I called you up drunk at two in the morning after my company party. I didn’t know how to give a good BJ, and I still don’t.

Something happened to us, though, when we’d been together about six months. I remember standing in the circle of your arms, on one of the worst days of my life. You didn’t exactly make me feel better—nothing could have made me feel better right then. But you didn’t make me feel worse. If I could stand to have you there with me at that moment, I could stand to have you with me any time, all the time.

You and I, we have each other’s back. That’s the root of it.

We’re not those gawky kids any more. I’m creative, polished, successful; you’re confident, decisive, funny. I’ll never forget, though, that you loved me before any of that.

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Confession #2491

Sometimes I wonder if you remember the night I tried to tell you I loved you. I tried and tried but couldn't do it. I figured I would have trouble telling you so I had a note in my pocket ready in the event that I chickened out... which I did. I handed you the note as we kissed goodnight and then ran into my house. You thought I was breaking up with you, but all I wanted to say was I LOVE YOU.

Confession #2492

For the first few years of our marriage you were physically and verbally abusive. Sure you never actually hit me but you threw me around plenty. Nothing I did was ever right or ever good enough. Then you got sick and I took care of you and you learned to trust me, and rely on me, and for a while we were partners. So we had a baby. A beautiful, wonderful, baby. And your health got better and you pushed me away once again. Then last summer I found out you were seeing another woman. Maybe you didn't get the chance to sleep with her, but you would have, there are no doubts in my mind. And when I started to pack my bags to leave, you talked me into staying, and since then you have really changed. You love me and care for me the way that I wanted from the very beginning. Which is why I am so sad, because last summer when you told me that you regretted ever marrying me, my love for you died. And I think that I went through all of the grieving process. I was devastated, then angry, and now when I look at you I am numb.

That is the worst. I look at you and feel nothing. I want to love you, need you, want you, but I don't. I see you trying so hard and I want to open my heart to you, but I feel like that part of me is broken, for you. Divorce is not an option. But our marriage should never have been. I regret you. I should have married the man, that to this day, I still love. I should have married him.


Confession #2493

So honey, I know we had to pay a $50 deductible on the phone I lost last month (for the second time). Therefore, on Saturday morning when I handed you my cell and said “it just won’t turn on”, I just couldn’t bring myself to tell you it was because I washed it Friday night with my jeans.



Thanks for going to the cell phone kiosk with me to get a replacement. You’re the best!



Love

Me


Confession #2494

I can barely remember the happy times before our engagement or the perfectly adorable smile on your face that made me fall in love with you. The romance and sweet things you used to do for me is what had me loving you. You took all that away and deprived me of the simplest, least expensive, acts of love you could give me. I used to be proud to be associated with you and now I can barley stand the sight of you and your sorry excuses as to why you don’t do nice things for me or have tried to save our marriage. When you promise to take care of someone and love them forever, you don’t just stop when you get lazy, or you are broke, or tired, because we as women don’t. We keep on giving, when we are too tired, when you don’t deserve it, when you are mad at us, until there is nothing left. You were too stupid to see how lucky you were and you never deserved me. All that patience, love, trust, I had for you as turned into hate for what you knowingly have done to destroy us, then me. I will not allow you to continue to hurt me and I know I will never love you again because even when I look into your eyes, those beautiful loving eyes I fell in love with, I see the man who cheated me out of the life and love he promised me.

Confession #2495

I really do think you’re the poster boy for why you shouldn't do drug. Remember the old commercial with the frying pan and this is your brain, this is your brain on drugs. He's a f'ing moron. Your such an idiot that you don't see in front of your own face that your losing me. I hope sometime this year to leave you and do you really think that you saying "I won't give you any child support" is really going to keep me from leaving. I can work two jobs and will for happiness away from you.

Confession #2496

The correct response to a suggestion that we go to a sex store and buy some toys to reinvigorate our pathetic sex life is NOT "Who will get them in the divorce?" That will, in fact, pretty much assure that there will be no sex with toys....and no reinvigoration of our sex life.

Confession #2497

You said, "We're a team. It's okay, babe. It's you and me. We're a team."

I didn't realize until you said them that those were the words I needed to hear most in that moment.

Confession #2498

I love that fact that since our son was born in February that you have become a more emotional man. You aren't afraid to cry in front of me anymore. When our son was crying after his shots today it was touching to see you cry because he was in pain. I know why I married you, and why I wanted to have your children. Thanks for being a wonderful husband, friend, and father.

I really do love coming home to see our son in his cute ass bear suit!

Confession #2499

I can't believe I fell for you.

You said I wasn't normally your type. You said you have so far cheated on all of your girlfriends. You said you don't want to have kids. You said you never loved anyone more than me. We got married and now I feel like I am not enough for you. You tell me you love me yet you do your own thing. You think you're the best f**** I ever had. Well let me tell you something. You are not! You are not even close. Foreplay is meant for both to be enjoyed. Yes I do need attention and so do my body parts.

There were random people I wasn't even close with that were better than you. And no I am not gagging for it.

You need to take a reality check and get a freaking life.

Your wife


Confession #2500

I love you with my heart and soul. I am so in love with you 25 years later, and feel your love each day. I'm grateful for the wonderful marriage we have. You are a wonderful husband, father & friend. The only thing I would change is during that first year we dated you cheated with my friend. It took me along time to forgive you, and it still hurts sometimes when I think of it. But honestly Im glad I did. I just wish our relationship didn't have that blemish.

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Confession #2481

When the seal is placed on our divorce, the main reason will be your irrational anger about small petty things, and my insistence that a sparkling clean house is less important than being happy and relaxed.

Confession #2482


The truth is sometimes things get better but for after a while they suck again. Although I love you and I really think you love me... your communication sucks. The truth is I really only think you do enough to get by. Sad to say I AM TIRED! Tired of always having to do everything for the kids even after work, tired of always listening to your off crazy ass sister and her issues, tired of being the one that everybody comes to for everything in life. I want a break. Sometimes I dream of just falling. Not falling to die but falling to get away from everybody...


Confession #2483

In the middle of the night, when you wake up slightly from sleep and grab me and kiss my cheek and whisper "I love you soo much baby girl" That very moment is when I forgive you for all the stupid dumb ass things you did that day! It also reminds me Of EXACTLY why i fell in love with you!

We may not have the perfect marriage and right now we may be going through some pretty crappy waters but It wouldn't even be worth going through with any other man.

Thank you for those quiet moments that you probably don't even remember the next morning! YOU HAVE NO IDEA WHAT THEY MEAN TO ME!

I love you more than you will ever realize!

Confession #2484

We're pregnant now and I cant tell you how much I cant wait to have the baby and get away from him. He's an attractive guy, nice build (little pudgey in the waist now), handsome, and funny. BUT he's selfish as hell. I forgave him when he said he needed a break to "work on himself" then found out he was seeing someone else who he had just broke up with to come back to me (w/o my knowledge) and she couldn't take it. Who is too much of a pussy to stand up to his mom and grandmother when they pressured him to pressure me to have an abortion. Who thinks he SOooo cute but really an insecure fuck who likes to flirt with women on sites like fling and myspace thinking I wont find out. INTERNET HISTORY dumbASS! I gave him everything including his first child and he does things like "help" me pay the rent on the apt WE live and think he deserves a damn medal for it. ITS CALLED RESPONSIBILITY!!! Pressured me and stressed me when I lost my job and complained about having to take over the bills temporarily, now you're not working and NOT DOING SHIT! Had the nerve to call me lazy because I wanted to sit my pregnant ass down working 7 days a week 6-6pm and you wanted me to help you clean up after you've been sitting doing nothing. You can get gung ho to go out with your friends but cant fuck right. You cant even wait for me to cum and when I don't want sex with you anymore, you get mad when I tell you what the problem is. talking about at least I tried.....WTF? THEN< you go run to your mom and grandma about every damn problem we have instead of sitting and talking to me. You're verbally abusive and like to think someone scared of you. Little do you know I'M leaving before I kill your ass for jumping in my face. You don't understand and don't want to understand that being pregnant requires PEACE> you stress me out every chance you get. You stupid fuckup! You're 25 years old and still think you're going to make it as an actor or singer. You just want the damn attention and ain't good at neither one of them. You expect me to support you but when things get good for me you get jealous and start doing dumb ass shit and saying I'm supposed to help you out with your career. You're so jealous. I should've listened to my mother before I got knocked up by your immature ass and if your family members say one more thing because I wanted to keep OUR child (your pussy ass couldn't even stand up to them) I'm going to flick off on their ass. You don't care about nobody but your damn self. You try to verbally hurt me everytime we get into an argument THEN you tell me its okay to talk to you. I don't talk to you because you don't listen. You're ALWAYS right. I'm not getting married to your dumb ass, I know it isn't going to work because you expect someone to sit down and do everything as you please without question. Your only ambition is to be an actor or singer. What about if that doesn't work out (99% chance it wont)? You have no backup plans!!!You gonna tell me you want to be an actor full time when we're six months from being parents. I have a secret bank acct. too because you always claim to have no money, but it mysteriously appears when YOU need something. You're a FOLLOWER! You can t even think for your damn self. You always saying your friends think you should leave me but ALL of them want me! You can be a dumb fuck if you want and listen to them because they're all trying to be with me. I'm pregnant working 2 jobs (about to be 3) and your at home playing video games waiting for something to pop up. You cant even have the fucking house clean!!! I wish I was evil because I would make sure you hurt. You don't care about me or your baby as much as you brag to everyone about us. We're just accessories to make YOU look good. You care more about what people think of you than you give off. As soon as I have MY child, I'm booting you out the picture. By then I'll have money saved up (unbeknownst to you) and I'll be able to live comfortably without you. YOU WILL BE PAYING CHILD SUPPORT. After you didn't defend my decision to keep the baby after your PARENTS called me because they didn't think it was a good TIME to have a baby, I knew you were a bitch. I stood up to you ALL because MY CHILD deserves a chance. You only wanted to keep it after you saw I wasn't backing down. Fuck you and your parents. I got that social and ALL of your family members addresses that live in this state! Especially after I saw you thought I was going to let your mom and grandma dictate everything. Bitch please. I don't tell you everything and trust I'M still sexy even MORE post-pregnancy so don't sleep on me. Someone is waiting in the wings watching all your fuckups from close up. Too bad you're always complaining about me because they only see the good and think I'M an angel for putting up with your selfish ass.

By the way I'm 20 (21 in a couple of months), a soon to be homeowner (w/o the selfish prick), paying my way through college, running my own event planning biz WHILE working 2 jobs and 3.5 months pregnant. I don't need his selfish ass!!!

Confession #2485

Hi Honey,
I am remembering why I stay with you. When my roommate died in the car accident we were only dating, Maybe just 4 or 5 dates. The second you heard about the accident you came right over and never left my side.. That was 15 years ago. I was going to stop seeing you before that. I didn't think we had a connection. Boy was I wrong. We now have 3 kids a house a dog and a car payment. You never left my side. Now it is my turn to show you I will not leave your side. I know what happened was a stupid choice. I won't leave you for it. I will never leave your side either. I love you
Love Me

Confession #2486

I'm very good at ironing, and I don't mind doing it, but the wrinkles in your shirts just won't come out, so I've given up. One day, I got out all of your shirts from the closet and decided to iron them all and put perfect creases down the sleeves. I got through 2 before I started crying in frustration. I'm so sorry.

Confession #2487

I didn't miss you at all when I was away.

Confession #2488

The past six months have been the worst time in my life. We fight all the time, and I can’t take all the crap you put me through everyday. I have asked multiple times for a divorce and you deny me one all the time. You tell me you love me and don’t even say it to your face anymore. You bug the hell out of me, and I cant stand the way you act. Oh and I hate your mom. And I’m still talking to my ex’s.

=the wife


Confession #2489

I'm very good at ironing, and I don't mind doing it, but the wrinkles in your shirts just won't come out, so I've given up. One day, I got out all of your shirts from the closet and decided to iron them all and put perfect creases down the sleeves. I got through 2 before I started crying in frustration. I'm so sorry.

Confession #2490

I don't even know where to begin. First off, I don't know when I stopped being in love with you. and I hate myself because every time I contemplate leaving I tell myself to stay 'because of the kids'.
Stop purposefully pushing my buttons to get me angry so you can get mad at me for being pissy. Stop acting like a jerk and stop blaming me for everything. My being pregnant is not justification for you to be an ass. What gives you the right to fly off the handle over every little thing I do or don't do especially when YOU do those same things too?
And constantly complaining that 'you don't get any' is not my idea of foreplay. Neither is rough manhandling of my breasts. If you think real hard, you'll realize that that I haven't told you 'no' in a long, long time. YOU are the one who falls asleep in front of the television. And if you think a little harder, you might also realize that I don't even get anything from our quick sexual encounters. Nothing, Nada, zip. Which I think you already know, but just don't care because it's obvious my needs haven't been a focus of yours in years. When you touch me, you touch me for your own pleasure. You make me feel used..


I don't even like you right now. And I'm pretty sure you don't like me either.
One of us has to grow the balls and actually admit it.

True Wife Confessions 248 dimensional puzzle

Confession #2471

I cheated on you. I had already given up on us after months, years, of trying to make it work. And then I met him, and wanted him, and e-mailed him and called him and pursued him and then fucked him and it was mind-blowing. I didn't even know sex could feel so good.

And then you changed. Everything I have been asking for, you're doing, now. Too late. When I slept with him, I ended our marriage. I don't want to hurt you, I just want out. I want to be able to breathe again. I want to figure out who I am.

The thing that kills me is, he doesn't want me. And you do want me. And I want him. And I don't want you.

It makes me hate myself a lot.

You are a really good guy. I respect you, and like you, and even love you. But after all the things that have been said and done, I have nothing left for our marriage. I thought it would be easy and you would respond the way you always have - but you didn't, you are doing everything right. And now it's me, having made this choice to cheat, that's fucked it all up.

And he doesn't even want me. He doesn't call, he doesn't text, he doesn't e-mail...

I feel so stupid.

Confession #2472

We were catching up with some friends at the bar. You and I were catching up with each other. A friend commented that she was watching us “lovebirds” chatting away in the corner. I think some people are shocked that we’re still this happy after nine years. I love that my friends want to find what we have.



Confession #2473

You think you are punishing me by your angry silence....but the sad truth is that I simply don't care anymore.My exhaustion with your emotional tantrums extends so deeply into the fabric of our marriage that it will be such a relief when we finally split up

Confession #2474

I don't know how it is that I am the lucky one to be your girlfriend.
If all the soul crushing crap I had to put up with in the past was payment for the chance to eventually meet you, I would endure it again.

I know you were trying to softly and wordlessly direct our walk through the mall toward that jewelry shop to look at rings.
My heart sped up. I pretended that you were just crowding me. I angled my body away and picked up my step ever so slightly. We walked past as I wondered aloud where the shoe store was... the one we planned to go to in the first place.

Please know that I love you. I love you more than I thought was possible. I wanted to go look at those rings. I want to marry you. You are the one for me.

I just didn't want to cry in public.


(But if you try again, I won't resist.)

Confession #2475

I hate these long hours you are having to work.

I miss you so much.

Confession #2476

Dear Husband,

I wish we liked the same kind of music. I wish you were coming to this concert with me tonight. I know you think the music I like is crap, but I don't put much stock into your opinion since you think Van Halen is the best band there ever was. You have poor taste. It's not me.


Confession #2477


Dear Bear,

I am so happy I left my first husband for you all those years ago. He was such a schmuck, and treated me so poorly. The decision to leave him was grueling at first because he and I had been together for so long (from the time we were barely teenagers til we were in our mid twenties), but thankfully I overcame the fear of being alone and got out of that relationship. BTW, I recommend it to any woman who is in the same shoes I was in back then: if you are NOT happy, do NOT keep going through the motions. Leave and find someone who truly cares for you, treats you like a Princess, and would never, ever think of hurting you, not even for a millisecond. Life is too short to be unhappy and underappreciated.

Our relationship started out a little rocky because you and I had both recently gotten out of less than savory marriages, and were dealing with our wacky exes, but somehow we overcame all of that and came out on top. We married last January after being exclusive for 3 years, got pregnant in August, and are now anxiously awaiting our daughter's arrival. I can't help but think that I had to go through that whole crappy relationship with my ex just to arrive here at this point, married to you, waiting for our kid to pop out, and it makes that whole long, drawn out crapfest I called a relationship with him more than worth it. Everything with you is easier. We don't fight much, and when we do, we apologize and laugh about it later. You're my best friend and my closest confidant, and I trust you implicitly. We can't afford fancy vacations or luxury items, but it doesn't matter. Every day with you is a vacation to me. You are my luxury item!

So, I just thought I'd say thank you, and I love you, and I look forward to the start of our family life together, even though it's a little scary to think that we're going to be someone's parents within the next couple of weeks! I think we'll be brilliant together, though. This kid is going to have a lot of love surrounding her.

I love you always,
Pookington

Confession #2478

Husband:
We have a child that you love very much. I appreciate that. Our baby loves you so much. When she wakes up in the morning, she call for you. I get a little jealous, being as though I am here with her every single day and you come home a couple times a month.

I am so sad and lonely. You have cheated on me and beat me. i am still here. Your family and friends knew and I was clueless. You have taken away my life by your selfish actions. I am so confused and a lone. It hurts so bad. I have no one to talk too but my therapist and I think she has pity for me. Everyone tell me to hold on because you are in medical school and maybe you are stressed. They tell me to take care of you. What about me? Who takes care of me when I am hurting or stressed. I know you study ten hours a day, but i go to work teaching some disturbing children, then I come home to provide for our daughter. She wipe my tears away today. She ask me what was wrong today because after reading your email, i just cried and cried. She;s only 2 for goodness sake. I have to be strong for her. Why do you play these games. I feel so insignificant.

Confession #2479

I have been married to my husband for a year and a month. I was 23 when we got married and had dated him on and off for six years. I knew how controlling and an ass he was. I was insecure and i live in a state where if you aren't married and have 2 kids by 24 you are crazy. we got married the 2 of march last year. the fights have gotten progressively worse. he likes to break things and put holes in the walls. he recently broke his wrist when he hit a stud. my husband just fixes the holes. i know that i shouldn't have married him and i see it more and more that we are going apart. i don't want to have sex with him, i find myself drinking or taking sleeping pills to get away.

heres where it gets good......
i met a coworker at work, i am his supervisor so that complicates alot. i found out that he used to live down the street form my grandmas house, she has already passed away. that house meant so much to me memory wise. i found out that he actually had fathered another coworkers child. (before he worked there, she was the reason why he moved down here so that he could be there for his daughter.) well i guess that it didnt work out and so now hes getting ready to go back to where he used to live.
after finding out that he knew my grandmas house he gave me his number to call so that he could send my a picture of the house. well we started to text and flirt at work. the text messages started to get a little dirty. so we decided to hang out. i took him to my favorite place to talk that over looked the city. that night we talked for hours. he said that he was confused and had a little voice in his head that told him not to do anything even though he wanted to. he made a comment about my chest, which is nice if i say so myself and i made the comment that they feel better then they look. it took him a min but eventually felt them.
the dirty messages keep coming. well last night we hung out again and we started to talk and then my shirt came off and we made out and dry humped. then he kind of stopped and said that he felt bad it wasn't against me and that he was so turned on and wanted more but also didn't want to hurt me knowing that he was leaving this Friday and then stammered something like he didn't want to hurt his baby's mom cause he knew that we were friends at work. i was confused and somewhat hurt so i left. today he has been texting me saying stuff like he wishes it would have gone further and that he had fun and would miss me.

so here i am now, and it was funny my husband and i went to where i work to pick up some stuff and my husband drove and he parked next to my flings car that we were in the night before. i feel bad and that i am a terrible wife but than i think of how big of an asshole he is to me and then i don't feel bad.

Confession #2480

Dear Husband,

This is a list of every single sin you've committed over the past year: Sure I may not be perfect, but I think any other woman would have thrown you the fuck out of the house for any of them. I've been patient, but that's over now.

* You've called me a bitch 52 times. Crazy bitch 29 times. Cunt 6 times. and I'm just like my mother 26 times (I've written it down every single time)

* You've called my daughter a pain, a brat, lazy and selfish (She is six years old, you ass)

* You've refused to watch our 9 month old on even one of your days off, even though I take her to work with me every single day.

* You've stopped going to anger management counseling, even though you promised to see it through after you went to jail for punching and choking me when I was holding our 3 week old daughter.

* You've let your family make horrid remarks and comments, and never defended me once.

* You pushed me down again last week.

* Just like you pushed me in the stomach hard enough to make me fall down, and choked me up against the wall at our old house when I was pregnant.

* You accused me of sleeping with my boss, an old friend and an old classmate.

* You refuse to do any kind of activities with the 6 year old, and when you do watch her on your days off, you make her spend all of her time in her room, while you watch TV and sleep all day.

* You continue with the porn magazines.

* You withhold sex. (We've had sex a total of 15 times since the baby was born in the summer, since you also wouldn't touch me while I was pregnant)

* You told me I was fat(5 times when I was pregnant, 3 times after) even though I weigh 125 pounds and am 5'4.If anyone is fat, it's you, lardass. Heaven help me if I say anything though, it's emotional abuse.

* You won't do any of the girls laundry, and heaven help me if I leave clothes in the dryer.

* You make sure that when we buy things, it's always you who need more things, not the girls, and certainly not me.

* When I do make a purchase for myself, you bring it up whenever we fight.

* You bring up everything I have ever told you and use it against me.

* You write checks every day, for big amounts, even though you don't handle the checking account. After all it's up to me to make sure we don't bounce. I have to scramble to get money together to cover all the fucking checks you write.

* When the girls and I are home, and the baby cries, you pick her up, attempt to soothe her for all of one minute, get frustrated and hand her to me.

* You have taken a vacation to see your father, and then one to see your old friends. Without me, and without the girls. All by your lonesome.

* When I went into pre-mature labor, and had to go to the hospital, did you care? Did you pick up your phone? No, you said you didn't have any reception.

* You stayed out until 4:30 in the morning last week with your buddies, and until 11 pm last Thursday when you were at a "meeting", yet you gave me crap when I got home having spent exactly two hours shooting pool with a friend.

* You complain that I'm still breastfeeding, but yet if I want to give the baby a bottle of formula, I have to do it, even though YOU SEE that she hates taking a bottle from me.

* You act jealous of the girls.

* When I question all the checks you write, you act like i have no right. listen bucko, we make 3 grand a month together, and you manage to spend everything that I don't use for rent, food and electric. You say it's for gas, well get rid of your big stupid SUV that runs like crap! You are irresponsible with the money, and I can't wait to take my name off of the bank account. I will laugh in your face when you find out how many times you will overdraft because you are too dumb to balance your account.

* You say the nastiest things about your own family, but if I open my mouth to say something, suddenly I don't know anything at all


After all of this, it's me. I'm the controlling bitch, I've got problem, it's never you, right?

I asked you on Sunday for a divorce, and you told me that I'll have to be the one leaving. here's the kicker, I am leaving, you just won't know when. I'll act like everything is fine until then, but I have not forgotten, and I will never forgive. This isn't a plea for you to get yourself together, because I've already made my decision.

Your wife

True Wife Confessions - The Beginning Part 2

These were the second batch of My confessions. I am re-running them because Confessions are slow these days. I like to think it is the return of spring. On that note, I challenge you to write confessions that make you laugh - or smile - or remember why you chose this partner in the first place. For me, it was a moment a few days ago when he slid into fresh sheets that I had sprinkled with lavender, and whispered "Hello, my love" in my ear. It was lovely.

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Confession #011

Oh yeah, I hear her calling my name. But it's 2 a.m. and you’re awake anyway.

Confession #012

I was going to leave my hair in the tub drain. You’re right. But I’ll die defending that I wasn’t.

Confession #013

Your chili isn't that good. Really. I’ve just never had the heart to tell you. Your coffee isn't either.

Confession #014

I hate dancehall music. I just don’t get the appeal for you. But I have smiled as you have played it for a long ass time.

Confession #015

I love that you have more colognes than I do. I love that the Macy’s mens cologne woman knows your first name. I also love that you always have good lotion somewhere nearby. You smell GREAT.

Confession #016

Yes, I washed the chicken. I have been rinsing the chicken for 15 years. You do not have to ask me EVERY TIME if I have washed the god damn chicken. If my plan were to give you salmonella, it would have happened a long time ago.

Confession #017

I know how much you detest Chinese Art Cinema. So it makes me love you more when you sit through three-hour movies in subtitles next to me, whilst I weep uncontrollably at the beauty of the story. And yes, I DID know that “Farewell My Concubine” was going to be three hours long. I just knew if I told you that, you wouldn’t come.


Confession #018

I will never tell you what my girlfriends and I really talk about. You’re my husband, but they are my girlfriends. Iron Curtain, Baby. And yes, we talk about you. And they know EVERYTHING.

Confession #019

Sometimes you only have to make me laugh to change my mood. It is not a strategy you use enough. Ditto for the shoulder massage. You’d get a hell of a lot more if you took note of this.

Confession #020

I know you didn’t read this card you gave me. You just picked the first one you came to that said “To my wife”. That’s why I quiz you on the sentiment behind the words on the card. To see you squirm.

True Wife Confessions - The Beginning

I thought it would be good to reprint the original TWC. While they are not anonymous, as they appeared on my "Home" blog, I am Doing the Best I Can, they provided the inspiration and impetus for TWC. They also serve as a reminder that confessions aren't always filled with anger, but may exist as the small "unsaid" things between couples - the space that I think of as the WD-40 area in which the lubricant of what it takes to KEEP a relationship together absorbs the smaller issues.

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Confession #001

Maybe the scratches on the top of car weren't caused by the car wash. Maybe they were caused by your daughter cheerfully clearing the car off with the steel tipped snow shovel. Maybe.

Confession #002

I know that you do loads of your own laundry when I'm not home. I know that you ignore the stack of the family laundry and wash your own personal load. I know this cause I find them in the dryer, and there is no coincidence large enough to convince me that this is "just what you happened to throw in". Especially as it has happened repeatedly for 15 years. This makes me unreasonably mad. That's why I leave all your clothes for the end, sometimes.

Confession #003

Your electronic organizer? The one you loved in 1998? Yeah. That didn't fall out of your car and get run over by your tire. I washed and dried it in the laundry , then tried to get you to think you'd done it by wedging it under your tire, in the rain.

Confession #004

I always spend more than I've told you I've spent. ALWAYS. No one gets this many shoes for what you think I've spent. That's the beauty of my own checking account.

Confession #005

I know where your belt, glasses or wallet are. I just think it's funny to watch you run around like a crazy person looking for them.

Confession #006

I WANT you to go out with your friends. Please. Get out of the house. Plus you always come home awfully grateful for what you have at home after listening to your friends bitch and moan about their wives.

Confession #007

When I say, "I don't care", sometimes I don't care. Sometime I do. Listen for the tone. It's been 15 years, it shouldn't be this hard to figure out.

Confession #008

When you go out of town, I play video games like a maniac. I also leave the bathroom door open when I pee, cause you aren't there to get all freaked out. And I don't do the dishes until right before you come home. Basically, chaos reigns.

Confession #009

I'm not really sleeping when I bump you at night. You're snoring Loudly and I have got to do something to stop the noise.

Confession #010

Your mother and I talk about you. When you are being a shit, I call her and she convinces me to stay married to you. You don't know how much you owe to your mother. Seriously.